Author: Matt “Dappz” McGuckin
For some of you, it might feel like being a man in today’s world is more challenging than ever. It’s a feeling I know has been expressed by friends of mine, who’ve openly shared stories about the complex pressures they’re facing. From societal expectations to evolving gender roles, it seems to be true that the modern man is navigating uncharted waters. However, I’m proud to share that I don’t subscribe to that narrative and want to share why and how, if you are feeling that pressure, you can get out of it. As the founder of Dappz Sports, I’ve had my share of ups and downs but I want to share some insights and advice that I believe can help men thrive in today’s world.
Define your own path
The first step towards fulfillment in life is understanding what you truly want. This sounds simple, but it’s a crucial first step. In conversations with my friends, I often ask: “What do you want?” Do you aspire to run your own business? Do you value the stability of a corporate job with benefits and a steady salary? Both paths are valid, but happiness hinges on authenticity.
For me, the corporate life was unfulfilling. I craved independence, even if it meant facing uncertainty and long hours. I chose to sacrifice short-term comfort for the chance to build something on my own terms. This is not a one-size-fits-all solution. Some men find satisfaction in traditional roles, and that’s perfectly okay. The key is to be honest with yourself about what you want.
Embracing the Hustle
Success, especially in entrepreneurship, requires hard work and dedication. So many men claim they want more from life but are unwilling to put in the necessary effort. It’s easy to come home after a 9-to-5 job, kick back, and watch TV. However, if you want more, those hours after work are crucial. This is your “side hustle” time, your opportunity to build something meaningful.
Creating new habits is challenging, especially in the first month. But once you push through and establish a routine, it becomes second nature. Whether it’s working on a business idea, learning a new skill, or improving your health, consistency is vital. The journey might be tough, but the rewards are worth the sacrifice.
The Reality of Advice and Motivation
Not everyone who asks for advice is ready to act on it. This is a hard truth. If you offer guidance based on your experiences and it falls on deaf ears, it’s a sign that they may not be ready for change. Persistence and patience are important, but so is recognizing when someone isn’t ready to take the next step.
For those genuinely seeking improvement, the path is clear: listen, learn, and act. Mentorship is invaluable. I’ve learned immensely from other entrepreneurs who have faced numerous challenges and made many of their own mistakes. Their wisdom, which comes from experience, has been instrumental in my journey. Also, if you’re serious about growth, seek out those who have walked the path before you.
The Myth of the Modern Male Crisis
There’s a lot of talk about the ‘actual’ crisis facing men today. Some argue that changes in society and gender roles have made it harder for men to thrive. While it’s true that traditional roles are evolving and narratives across social media and traditional media can be polarizing, I don’t believe men are at a unique disadvantage.
Society changes, and so must we. The core qualities that define a man—integrity, resilience, and the drive to provide and protect—remain timeless. Technology has advanced, offering new tools and opportunities. It’s up to us to leverage these changes to our advantage rather than lament the loss of old paradigms.
The Power of Focus and Resilience
In a world full of distractions, focus is a superpower. Whether it’s the positive comments that give us a fleeting sense of validation or the negative ones that can derail our day, it’s crucial to stay centered on our goals. External opinions should not dictate our actions or self-worth. The journey to success requires a relentless focus on your own path and objectives.
Every great achievement starts with a single step, followed by more. Whether you aim to lose weight, earn a degree, or build a business, it requires consistent effort over time. Embrace the process, and don’t expect immediate results. The small, daily actions compound into significant outcomes.
So, what does it mean to be a man today? It means defining your own path, embracing hard work, and being honest with yourself about your desires. It means seeking out mentors, focusing on your goals, and not getting swayed by societal narratives.
Ultimately, every man has to decide what kind of life he wants to lead and take active steps toward that vision. This requires courage, resilience, and a willingness to grow. Whether you’re pursuing a passion, building a family, or striving for professional success, remember that the journey is just as important as the destination. Embrace the challenge, stay true to your values, and keep moving forward.
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